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Disfellowshipping: The Watchtower Society Tightens Its Control

The leadership of the Jehovah’s Witnesses has the difficult task to find a balance between the wish to be seen as a ‘mainstream’ religion and their sectarian dogmas like Disfellowshipping and the refusal of blood transfusions.

In the last decade the Office of Public Information of Jehovah’s Witnesses has worked hard to give the Jehovah’s Witnesses a more friendlier and mainstream appearance. The recent media attention regarding the handling of sexual abuse among its members is seen by the leadership as an attack on God’s people. It seems that this causes a more isolationist policy towards the outside world. This might be the reason why the Watchtower Society is again taking a hard line on Disfellowshipped and Disassociated members.

Very interesting is how the Society changed the text on the Authorized Site of the Office of Public Information of Jehovah’s Witnesses, jw-media.org, in the Beliefs-Frequently Asked Questions section. Below are two screenshots taken from this website. One is taken before July 2002 the other in July 2002:

before
Screenshot taken before July 2002

after
Screenshot taken July 2002

It is very clear that “Quit mixing with them” is a much harder standpoint than “Disfellowshipping does not sever family ties”. I know that there are cases of more informed Jehovah’s Witnesses who justified their association with Disfellowshipped family members by quoting the jw-media.org website: “Disfellowshipping does not sever family ties”. But this time of Perestroika has come to an end.

To make this hardened standpoint clear for all its members, the “Faithful and Discreet Slave” has prepared an article that will be discussed in congregations all over the world. The article is published in Our Kingdom Ministry of August 2002. You can read it below:

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Display Christian Loyalty When a Relative is Disfellowshipped

1. The bond between family members can be very strong. This brings a test upon a Christian when a marriage mate, a child, a parent, or another close relative is disfellowshipped or has disassociated himself from the congregation. (Matt. 10:37) How should loyal Christians treat such a relative? Does it make a difference if the person lives in your household? First, let us review what the Bible says on this subject, the principles of which apply equally to those who are disfellowshipped and to those who disassociate themselves.

2. How to Treat Expelled Ones: God’s Word commands Christians not to keep company or fellowship with a person who has been expelled from the congregation: “Quit mixing in company with anyone called a brother that is a fornicator or a greedy person’ or an idolater or a reviler or a drunkard or an extortioner, not even eating with such a man…. Remove the wicked man from among yourselves.” (1 Cor. 5:11, 13) Jesus’ words recorded at Matthew 18:17 also bear on the matter: “Let (the expelled one] be to you just as a man of the nations and as a tax collector.” Jesus’ hearers well knew that the Jews of that day had no fraternization with Gentiles and that they shunned tax collectors as outcasts. Jesus was thus instructing his followers not to associate with expelled ones – See The Watchtower of September 15, 1981, pages 18-20.

3. This means that loyal Christians do not have spiritual fellowship with anyone who has been expelled from the congregation. But more is involved. God’s Word states that we should ‘not even eat with such a man.’ (1 Cor. 5:11) Hence, we also avoid social fellowship with an expelled person. This would rule out joining him in a picnic, party, or trip to the shops or theatre or sitting down to a meal with him either in the home or at a restaurant.

4. What about speaking with a disfellowshipped person? While the Bible does not cover every possible situation, 2 John 10 helps us to get Jehovah’s view of matters: “If anyone comes to you and does not bring this teaching, never receive him into your homes or say a greeting to him.” Commenting on this, The Watchtower of September 15,1981, page 25, says: “A simple ‘Hello’ to someone can be the first step that develops into a conversation and maybe even a friendship. Would we want to take that first step with a disfellowshiped person?”

5. Indeed, it is just as page 31 of the same issue of The Watchtower states: “The fact is that when a Christian gives himself over to sin and has to be disfellowshiped, he forfeits much: his approved standing with God;.. sweet fellowship with the brothers, including much of the association he had with Christian relatives.”

6. In the Immediate Household: Does this mean that Christians living in the same household with a disfellowshipped family member are to avoid talking to, eating with, and associating with that one as they go about their daily activities?’ The Watchtower of April 15, 1991, in the footnote on page 22, states: “‘If in a Christian’s household there is a disfellowshipped relative, that one would still be part of the normal, day-to-day household dealings and activities.” Thus, it would be left to members of the family to decide on the extent to which the disfellowshipped family member would be included when eating or engaging in other household activities. And yet, they would not want to give brothers with whom they associate the impression that everything is the same as it was before the disfellowshipping occurred.

7. However, The Watchtower of September 15, 1981, page 28, points out regarding the disfellowshipped or disassociated person: “Former spiritual ties have been completely severed. This is true even with respect to his relatives, including those within his immediate family circle. .
That will mean changes in the spiritual fellowship that may have existed in the home. For example, if the husband is disfellowshiped, his wife and children will not be comfortable with him conducting a family Bible study or leading in Bible reading and prayer. If he wants to say a prayer, such as at mealtime, he has a right to do so in his own home. But they can silently offer their own prayers to God. (Prov. 28:9; Ps. 119:145, 146) What if a disfellowshiped person in the home wants to be present when the family reads the Bible together or has a Bible study? The others might let him be present to listen if he will not try to teach them or share his religious ideas.

8. If a minor child living in the home is disfellowshipped, Christian parents are still responsible for his upbringing. The Watchtower of November 15, 1988, page 20, states: “Just as they will continue to provide him with food, clothing, and shelter, they need to instruct and discipline him in line with God’s Word. (Proverbs 6:20-22; 29:17) Loving parents may thus arrange to have a home Bible study with him, even if he is disfellowshipped. Maybe he will derive the most corrective benefit from their studying with him alone. Or they may decide that he can continue to share in the family study arrangement.”-See also The Watchtower of October f, 2001, pages 16-17.

9. Relatives Not in the Household: “The situation is different if the disfellowshipped or disassociated one is a relative living, outside the immediate family circle and home,” states The Watchtower of April 15, 1988, page 28. “It might be possible to have almost no contact at all with the relative. Even if there were some family matters requiring contact, this certainly would be kept to a minimum,” in harmony with the divine injunction to “quit mixing in company with anyone” who is guilty of sinning unrepentantly. (1 Cor. 5:11) Loyal Christians should strive to avoid needless association with such a relative, even keeping business dealings to an absolute minimum. – See also The Watchtower of September 15, 1981, pages 29-30.

10. The Watchtower addresses another situation that can arise: “What if a close relative, such as a son or a parent who does not live in the home, is disfellowshiped and subsequently wants to move back there? The family could decide what to do depending on the situation. For example, a disfellowshiped parent may be sick or no longer able to care for himself financially or physically. The Christian children have a Scriptural and moral obligation to assist. (1 Tim. 5:8)… What is done may depend on factors such as the parent’s true needs, his attitude and the regard the head of the household has for the spiritual welfare of the household.”-The Watchtower of September 15, 1981, pages 28-9.

11. As for a child, the same article continues: “Sometimes Christian parents have accepted back into the home for a time a disfellowshiped child who has become physically or emotionally ill. But in each case the parents can weigh the individual circumstances. Has a disfellowshiped son lived on his own, and is he now unable to do so? Or does he want to move back primarily because it would be an easier life? What about his morals and attitude? Will he bring ‘leaven’ into the home? – Gal. 5:9.”

12. Benefits of Being Loyal to Jehovah: Cooperating with the Scriptural arrangement to disfellowship and shun unrepentant wrongdoers is beneficial. It preserves the cleanness of the congregation and distinguishes us as upholders of the Bible’s high moral standards. (1 Pet. 1:14-16) It protects us from corrupting influences. (Gal. 5:7-9) It also affords the wrongdoer an opportunity to benefit fully from the discipline received, which can help him to produce “peaceable fruit, namely, righteousness.”-Heb. 12:11.

13. After hearing a talk at a circuit assembly, a brother and his fleshly sister realized that they needed to make adjustments in the way they treated their mother, who lived elsewhere and who had been disfellowshipped for six years. Immediately after the assembly, the man called his mother, and after assuring her of their love, he explained that they could no longer talk to her unless there were important family matters requiring contact. Shortly thereafter, his mother began attending meetings and was eventually reinstated. Also, her unbelieving husband began studying and in time was baptized.

14. Loyally upholding the disfellowshipping arrangement outlined in the Scriptures demonstrates our love for Jehovah and provides an answer to the one that is taunting Him. (Prov. 27:11) In turn, we can be assured of Jehovah’s blessing. King David wrote regarding Jehovah: “As for his statutes, I shall not turn aside from them. With someone loyal you will act in loyalty.”-2 Sam. 22:23, 26.

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The Disfellowshipping policy harms the hundreds of thousands of Disfellowshipped Jehovah’s Witnesses worldwide. It causes also unnecessary self-inflicted pain for Jehovah’s Witnesses who, against every natural feeling, shun their excommunicated family members and friends. The Jehovah’s Witnesses have still a long way to go to become mainstream believers.

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  1. Jones
    March 16th, 2013 at 13:12 | #1

    If you believe in God and what the bible says, then you can read and educate yourself and come to know what is expected of you.

    2 Tim.2:15 should be of some comfort to you and Jesus in Matt.7:7 clearly states that you can know the way and I don’t see any restrictions given about one being Jehovah’s Witness. The church was established and the first converts were recorded in the book of Acts of the Apostles.

    The simplicity of the Gospel is almost too much for some people to take. @Joe

  2. Joe
    March 15th, 2013 at 20:20 | #2

    I have been DF’d for 2 years now….I am 38 and find all the friends and family in my life now unwilling to even call and find out if I am ok once in awhile. I cried like a baby in the elders room as I confessed to fornication. Now after the shock has passed and I have had plenty of time to really reflect on the situation, what loving Father would do that to someone in such pain? Would the father of the prodigal son have really shunned his son for a year or two to “make sure” he was really repentant? I spend time thinking of how I really do believe there is a Creator, and that He certainly must have a plan to make this world better.

    But does that mean He will destroy every man, woman and baby who isn’t a Jehovah’s Witness? I cannot reconcile this question with what is taught at the meetings. I have met too many kind, caring people outside the organization who really are interested in knowing God and helping others to believe that anymore.

    So now I am trying to focus on building a new life, try to find some peace and happiness and not beat myself up everyday for past mistakes.

  3. Jane Dew
    February 25th, 2013 at 09:01 | #3

    Hi, I would like to ask about the implication of disfellowshiping to the person being disfellowshiped in the context of JW. If Dfed means excluded from God’s organization, that means the person has no salvation (for one to be saved, he/she must come to God via His earthly organization)? Even though he/she is allowed to attend the Kingdom Hall, what will happen to the person if the end comes before he/she get reinstated?

  4. Boateng
    March 9th, 2012 at 12:33 | #4

    This policy of not mingling with “sinners” reminds me of the Jews who saw the sins of others but not their own. They wanted to stone the “harlot” adultereous lady caught in the act. They wanted to inflict physical pain after the emotional pain but Jesus will have none of that! The Jews were quoting the scripture just like we are seeing by the WatchTower to justify such unGodly stance. Inflicting emotional pain so they can control folks that sincerely love God is against the Agape LOVE of Yaweh.

    The scriptures tell us how the Religious leaders doubted Jesus because he dined with sinners! Yaweh came to Adam when they disobeyed him and Jesus left his glory to come to us. The Bible clearly tells us that sin separates us from God and we are all sinners including the folks of the WatchTower Society yet God permits us to talk with him and he talks to us. Is the WatchTower Society Holier than Jesus? If they want forgiveness from Yaweh then they need to love and not throw stones at sinners. They should learn to eat with tax collector as Jesus did than inflicting emotional pains to their members.

  5. Nana
    April 26th, 2011 at 02:52 | #5

    Well lets see…..IF we the WBTS can increase our followers/flock by dumbing them down, if uneducated they will not develop the skills for critical thinking. It’s of great importance to discourage higher education, restricking reading/research material. Keeping them busy in meetings and publishing requirements. Reading/studing the Bible without WBTS publications will be an act of apostasy & result in disfellowshipping. Limiting social interaction/recreation with non JW family members and friends should put them right where we want them….in a hypnotic state of being and robotically responding to our direction/commands, accepting of all teachings published in the WBTS literture….

  6. Niko Rokodravu
    August 13th, 2010 at 05:19 | #6

    I 1John 1:9 We must confess our *sins to God. If we do, he will be kind to us. He will forgive us all our *sins. And he is right to do so. He will make us *clean from all the wrong things that we have done. This is what he has promised to do.

    God forgives us when we confess our *sins
    In contrast to them are those people who say that they have *sinned. *Sin is something that affects all our lives. But *sin does not have to spoil our unity with God. We should say that we have *sinned. We should confess our *sins to God. When we do so, God will forgive us.

    God has promised to forgive us and he will keep his promise. He cannot just forget our *sin as if it was not there. He is good and *holy. *Sin cannot remain with him. He had to remove it from his people.

    God achieved this by putting all our *sin on the *Lord Jesus. The *Lord Jesus took the punishment for our *sin. He died for this purpose. Now God can forgive those who confess their *sins.

    God forgives our *sins and he makes us *clean as well.

    We must confess all the *sins that we know about. Then God will forgive us. He makes us completely *clean. He takes from us all the wrong things that we do not yet know about. Those things that we do not know will not damage our unity with God.

  7. Sara (Debra) Burkhart
    April 8th, 2010 at 18:38 | #7

    petra :jehovah,s congregation are to remail clean holly undefiled from the spirit of the world from its immoral influence people who go on unreasoning like beast. jehovah is holly so is those want to worship him they must be holly like he is. they must hate what jehovah hates. so if some one does not want to repernt so disfelowship is necesary to keep the congregation clean. let the one who have ear hear what the spirit say to the holly cogregation.

    Okay, for one thing learn how to spell…it’s not HOLLY, it’s HOLY…and it’s not “let the one who have an ear..” it’s: Let the one who HAS an ear…”
    I have studied with JW’s on 3 different occasions over the past 25 years and I have always enjoyed reading the publications. I have recently stopped studying and going to my local congregation because I do not agree with their policy of shunning. Jesus wouldn’t have done that, it’s not a loving thing to do nor does it show that they are forgiving–the way that Jesus said we should be!!!! I’m upset by this and I will not become a JW until they change this. They do not have the right to tell me who I can and cannot speak to…and by doing this they are trying to take away my FREE WILL.

  8. Markus
    December 24th, 2009 at 03:13 | #8

    @otto marconi

    Hey it is silly season again, jeez seemed like yesterday I was doing this.
    Anyway Rado, Jones, Otto, Fri and James all of the very best for the festive season, and I hope the new year brings you all good tidings.
    This last one was a real bugger, so good luck all you good folk.

    Cheers,
    Markus

  9. December 24th, 2009 at 02:22 | #9

    @shell
    dear is time for you to prove your loyalt to jehovah dear cause disfellowship is a discipline and whom jehovah loves he discipline you are lucky for that. now prove to everybody how much you love jehovah much more to jehovah himself. when you do that you will reap joy.hence put away all filthiness and that superfluous thing and accept with mildness the implanting of the word which is able to save your souls. wish you the best chau.

  10. Shell
    December 20th, 2009 at 21:35 | #10

    I recently was diffed as many of my friends along with me call it too. We all are in the same congregation all under twenty years of age and there are
    five of us and they disfellowshipped us all. I think that this is very unloving

  11. otto marconi
    December 14th, 2009 at 23:55 | #11

    @petra
    Hi petra. you in africa? well i don’t care though your approach does sound a lot primitive and gross. as you can see in the recent comments part of this blessed site i answered to a lot of your naive and primitive and stoneage issues. cheers.
    PS grow a brain.

  12. December 14th, 2009 at 08:34 | #12

    hi otto marconi it looks like you are full of hatred whats up with you. i feel so sorry for you if you are not happy. and im not in america im in africa.

  13. November 18th, 2009 at 03:20 | #13

    jehovah,s congregation are to remail clean holly undefiled from the spirit of the world from its immoral influence people who go on unreasoning like beast. jehovah is holly so is those want to worship him they must be holly like he is. they must hate what jehovah hates. so if some one does not want to repernt so disfelowship is necesary to keep the congregation clean. let the one who have ear hear what the spirit say to the holly cogregation.

  14. Markus
    September 29th, 2009 at 00:38 | #14

    @robert
    Yep, no Armageddon, that is the Lord coming to kill us all again. We as humans might self destruct but you see there is no Biblegod, therefore no Armageddon. See simple.
    Cheers,
    Markus

  15. The hearts reasoning is faulty
    September 28th, 2009 at 19:46 | #15

    My mother is a JW and I am able to have contact with her, no probs whatsoever. She committed fornication and asked for forgiveness and was not DF.

    Remember that Satan uses all forms of communication and interaction of peoples to lead people into his snares.

  16. robert
    August 26th, 2009 at 16:21 | #16

    @Markus
    you say there is no armageddon. never has been never will be? oh how wrong you arew.its not some geographical location like so many insist. far from it.if you read your bible you know it is the destruction of the wicked.and as for disfellowshipping, you know as well as i it is to keep the congregation clean, just like the apostle paul commanded.and he had jehovahs holy spirit and backing on that.

  17. Markus
    August 5th, 2009 at 01:48 | #17

    @glen
    The WT society has a marvelous self preservation strategy.
    When folk leave, a lot initially feel guilty. Time passes and these same folk get over these feelings which are replaced with “I must have been crazy to attend all those meetings”. This revelation is better kept away from the congregation.
    I left a long time ago, lost a lot of friends and some family, but now I never look back, I am so much happier, no guilt feelings about my dismal service report, and other ridiculous notions.
    Cheers,
    Markus

  18. glen
    August 4th, 2009 at 20:51 | #18

    I’ve been disfellowshipped now for 12 years. No plans of returning. My regret is, I have two wonderfull children, now grown, whom I love very much, that I can no longer comunicate with. This is wrong no matter what reason you give me. But they are adults and have decided for themselves. Not what I thought religion was all about. I’m a good person,allways have been. Too bad

  19. Tony G
    October 12th, 2007 at 00:15 | #19

    Well, that is my plan…to simply fade out of the picture.

  20. Tony G
    October 12th, 2007 at 00:13 | #20

    As a JW secretly reading this stuff, I think about a scripture that says something like “test the inspired expression.” I’ve been testing our teachings and find some of them to be seriously lacking.

    1914 has become the big one for me. I know that the date of 607B.C.E. is wrong. I’ve seen elders admit this! Yet, they insist on the calculation.

    We recently had a Question Box (part of a newsletter called “Our Kingdom Ministry”) which made it clear that groups of Witnesses were not to get together and do research or discuss the Bible independently of the WT publications!

    There is a new understanding of the “generation” that Jesus spoke of in Matthew 24. I won’t get into it right now, but, combined with the comments made at this year’s district convention, it puts Armageddon off indefinely!

  21. ABSENTIMENTAL
    February 5th, 2007 at 10:04 | #21

    ummm… Didn’t jesus eat and associate with tax collectors? would that mean that he was also a sinner? Jesus. a perfect man… sinning, by associating with and even eating dinner at a tax collectors home!?

    and of the man that didn’t talk to his mother and she started going to meetings aain…. what of the cases where the mother commited suicide? I am sure there were some.. I would have felt so rejected if I were her!!

    Family IS SUPPOSED TO BE IMPORTANT!

    DF IS BS

  22. dan
    January 2nd, 2007 at 04:42 | #22

    OK, I have a question here. I left the JWs in 1996, but was never baptised. My mother is still a very active JW. Am I to assume that under these new stricter regulations, had I been baptised (which I came very close to doing), and then left, she would not be talking to me right now? As of right now, she and I speak on a regular basis, and she is very involved in my daughter’s life, or as involved as she can be with the miles between us.

  23. D111115
    November 26th, 2006 at 15:47 | #23

    I think disfellowshipping is only necessary because the whole religion is built on a house of cards. Let just one get jostled ever so slightly, and the whole thing comes down. This is what happens when you have a bunch of old fogeys that are isolated from younger groups that make the rules–and they are usually poorly integrated with each other and with reality.

    A far better solution is independent thinking on the part of the members. If everyone were encouraged to think for themselves, problems would be solved with discussion. True, there would still be mistakes. But those who are affected would be able to fix them. And those who are bent on creating problems where none exist would be stopped from doing so by the administrators within the congregation, which should be their purpose. And a lot of the mysticism that the congregation of Jehovah’s Witnesses is known for would simply collapse. You would get a solid foundation that is workable.

    There are still going to be attackers. However, someone who raises a specious argument about a sound organization is going to have a miserable time getting taken seriously. Eventually, they will either leave quietly or quit trying to disrupt things. Anyone with a minor disagreement would be able to fix the problem without derailing the whole organization. The organization would stand, because rational, independent thinking people are going to see right through garbage put out by envious, irrational troublemakers. Disfellowshipping would be very rare, and reserved for those who are trying to destroy the sould organization at any cost. In practice, maybe 1% of the flock would fit this category, if that.

    As for “sin”, a “sin” should be defined as meaning an action that has negative consequences for the committer or for society. Sins that only affect the committer become their own punishment–for instance, if you smoke, you alone have to deal with the effects of your smoking. “Sins” like oral sex, masturbation, watching porn, or gambling (within reason) are not going to affect anyone in any detrimental way, and people doing these things should be left alone. They are not harming society in any way, so these should not be subjected to the investigations and hearings that usually precede judicial committees. Basically, most of the “sins” that should be judicial offenses are already criminal offenses and should be dealt with as such.

  24. D111115
    November 26th, 2006 at 15:30 | #24

    This reminds me of the song “Earache My Eye” by Cheech and Chong. One of the lines in the discussion therein has the father proclaiming “Young man, I have talked to you until I’m blue in the face, and I’m DONE talking to you”. And the son replys “Good, does that mean you’re done spitting in my face too?”

    If you don’t have family in the cult, it could be to your benefit if you are disfellowshipped behind your back. This especially if all they did for you is to keep you from ever meeting anyone of the opposite sex. They hound and hound. They keep pestering you with letters, magazines, and “chance” meetings at your place of employment and while shopping. Once they declare that they are done trying to get you back, one might think “Good, does this mean you’re done hounding me too?”. Of course, if you have family in the cult, or all your friends are there and you are attached to it, it is going to hurt more. But, if they managed to keep anyone good out, when they do disfellowship you, you might be in a position to say “Oh, wow, that didn’t even hurt.”

  25. Markus
    November 16th, 2006 at 17:42 | #25

    Yep good buddy,
    The JW’s will go to any lengths to keep their sheep
    on the straight and narrow. Getting rid of a good interpreter like yourself, because you are starting to think more freely is normal for them.
    When I think back on the times when I a was a staunch supporter of the cult, I almost feel sick, my life has improved in all aspects since I bade them farewell.
    It takes time to shake the ideology out of the system,
    and when one studies enough to realize there is no such thing as Armageddon, never was never will be,
    you will feel marvelous.
    Cheers,
    Markus

  26. Alessandra
    November 16th, 2006 at 12:12 | #26

    what happens with a person that is grown up as a JW is that everything he’s known to be true like the whole points of view this person has had falls apart, but it occours at the expenses of many loss and pain. I grew up as a JW and when it happened to me it was devastating. Even today i am not completely convinced on how it happened cause i never went to the comitee they invited me several times and after given period my uncle just came to me and comunicate that i was disassociated. So cruel and almost mean…my sin? i didn’t have one! they did what they wanted because i started working on tV, as an sign language interpreter, not even standind my point of view, only translating. Ok, my sin was to do a job that helped create congrations of Deaf to them… I loose everything and you cannot imagine how sad and emotionally destroyd I was then. But i decided not to give in to that feelings and it helped me to move on. Although I lost part of my family that would keep appearences to the ‘brothers’ I can say I am very happy today after not belonging to such a closed mind kind of organization. Deceive is what I feel, for the wts and for my family. As I am Brazilian I didn’t have many acess to this kind of website, but now after living abroad for a few, I had this opportunity to write and share my feelings with others that suffered like me. Today I am a very happy person and continue to teach and help other deaf people, including old bible students that have become my students or have to deal with me in work. Sometimes I even laugh at this situations. The TV network accepted to enlarge its works sign language orientaded and what can I say to JW and WTS? What a good sign language teacher and interpreter they’ve lost!!!
    With love and kindness
    Alessandra

  27. margy
    July 22nd, 2006 at 18:16 | #27

    the first president charles taze russell was a sun god worhsiper.
    he was into pyrimidology,the roots of the watchtower are of false teachings.
    they have had neumerous false predictions of the end of the world.
    their bible, the new world translation was written by people and not scholars.
    they have changed the original christian bible, to fit their teachings, they have changed many scriptures, taken away and added to, so that their teachings would be false.
    the BIble says, NOT to ADD to or to take AWAY from the scriptures, or this would be a sin!
    they dont worship Jesus and the bible says that they worshiped Christ and the angels worshiped Christ.
    Jesus said, I am the WAY the TRUTH and the LIFE!
    without worshipping Christ, we dont even know the Father, the bible says that.
    it says, ALL of the FULLNESS of God lies IN Christ!
    when we accept Christ as Lord and Savior, he gives us the Holy Spirit.
    eternal life is IN Christ!
    the Bible says, whom the son sets FREE he is FREE indeed.
    Jesus came to set us free from the old law covenant, we are not to be bound to sacrficing, the bible says that Jesus is the PERFECT sacrifice for our sins.
    there is NO other, a organziation cannot give you eternal life, ONLY Christ can!
    we can KNOW without a doubt that we have eternal life.
    we dont have to work for our salvation, it is a FREE gift.
    do jw’s know that they have eternal life?
    they THINK that they have eternal life.
    the bible does not teach doubt, it says that we can KNOW that we will be with the Lord when we leave this earth.
    the bible says, absent from the body and PRESENT with the Lord.
    the Lord is the same yesterday, today and forever and he says that he will NEVER leave us nor forsake us.
    he never changes, if the rules of a organization are changing all the time, and prophecies are not coming true, i would say BEWARE, many come in my name saying that they are the true religion.
    they are sheeps in wolves clothing.
    we are not to look forward to armeggedon, the bible says that, it says to be BEWARE of people that are looking for the end.
    the greatest commandment from the Lord was to LOVE unconditionally, as he did.
    we are to teach the good news of salvation, Jesus said, to take up our cross and to follow HIM!
    not a orgazniztion!
    he said to cast our burdens on HIM (Jesus) and he will sustain us and remove our transgressions from us.
    and he remembers them NO more!
    when the jw’s disfellowship, they tear families apart, they dont keep them together, they dont show unconditional love.
    we owe our lives to Jesus and not to anyone else, we answer to Christ and not to a org!
    Jesus is the mediator, we need to quit trying to play God and start loving people!!
    what do the jw’s do with the commandment that says, to love and honor your parents?
    they throw love right out the window!
    i see emotional abuse galore!!
    i pray that the Lord will show them and others that all the glory and honor goes to CHrist, the one who died that shameful death on the cross for our sins.
    the bible says that we should boast ONLY of what Christ has done for us.
    he is our redeemer, Savior and eternal Father.
    the alpha and the omega and the begining and the end.
    Jesus said, I AM THAT I AM, I AM BEFORE ABRAHAM.
    he is EMANUEL, God is with us!
    the Bible says, there is NO other name under heaven and earth that man can be saved!
    his name is JESUS!
    the bible says, now there is therefore, NO CONDEMNATION to those who are IN Christ Jesus!
    PRAISE GOD!! HE is the answer for us all!

  28. June 15th, 2006 at 02:39 | #28

    I spent a great deal of time trying to figure out who too address in this e-mail. I was Df’d in 1981 for apostacy..in other words, daring to question the doctrinal authority of the GB. My family has been involved with the society in some form since the late 1890’s through my great grandfather. We lived and “served” in the Bronx, and Brooklyn NY. When I was “removed” from the congregation, like everyone, before and after me, I created for myself great vexation. To this day most of my family members who are still JW’s refuse to speak to me..At the end of the day, after 25 years, I have finally purged them from the depths of my soul. I have no love, no pity or compassion for their ignorance, or hypocrisy, nor do I feel the need to tell them the “real truth”. I will be quite content to see them die in thier own ignorance. Truth is truth, it is revealed to those who are seeking it in truth, and needs no qualification. We all, everyone of us can choose to leave or to stay. We all know the consequences of either of those decisions. I, like many others made the hard decision to leave, and suffered, the consequences of that decision.. frankly, it was the only truthful decision “one” could make. I have no regrets, or remorse. My decision has enriched my life in ways every JW could never even imagine. I would encourage anyone who is caught in a struggle of whether to leave or stay..to be truthful to yourself…The Spirit of truth is watching..!!!

  29. May 12th, 2006 at 17:00 | #29

    “And he fell to his knees, shouting, “Lord, don’t charge them with this sin!” And with that, he died.” – Acts 7:60 NLT

  30. Tony
    May 12th, 2006 at 14:04 | #30

    Dear Lynette,

    I know how you feel. Don’t give up on them, every once in a while call or visit them after this elder instruction cools off, just like JW return for another visit. Make sure it is not you that has left them, but they are the ones shunning. A loving thoughtful letter can work miracles sometimes.
    (I used to do shunning myself, today I feel very bad about it.) Your husband’s parents still love you and they are in pain themselves. Never give up on then – give them time and reminders of you.

    Warm regards,
    Tony

  31. James NON-JW
    May 12th, 2006 at 13:31 | #31

    Lynette, I sincerely feel for you & your husband. It is exactly what happened in my family as well, they are totally clueless when it comes to understanding anything other than what this cult dictates to them.
    Your comment reminds me of a comment I made a while ago in another article regarding how fear is heavily used by the WTS and it’s legion of robotic moronic elders. JW’s always say that they do not follow any person & stand up for what’s right all the time, however as you can see in your case and everyone else’s, the JW’s fear what other JW’s or the WTS do, say or think, not God. Consider how many JW’s come and post messages here, only to be scared off once they perceive that the WTS or any of their fellow cult followers were or about to find out. It’s all about fear and any religion that uses fear to keep their followers in line isn’t worth a nickel of time. This shouldn’t surprise anyone who has left the cult, we quickly start to see that their real God is the WTS.
    It won’t matter before too long anyway Lynette, the power of freedom of thought, the internet, lawsuits and their own stupidity are going to catch up with them. This is already starting to happen when you see little to no growth in countries that have access to information, so as to have an informed opinon. Religion has long preyed on the weak & unaware, after all how many JW’s know about the WTS’ real history, false prophecy, doctrinal flip-flopping, etc?

    It is best to move on in most aspects of your life, however I know it will be hard to work with the loss of your in-laws love.
    Pray for them, they just don’t realize the manipulation they incur at the hands of the WTS’ machination.

    God bless you & your husband, we all are here for you,

    James

  32. LYNETTE CARLTON
    May 12th, 2006 at 07:52 | #32

    I AM HAPPY TO SEE PEOPLE ARE COMING INTO THE LIGHT! MY HUSBANDS PARENTS, WHO WE ARE VERY CLOSE TO HAVE JUST NOW DECIDED TO NOT HAVE ANY THING TO DO WITH US, JUST BECAUSE THE ELDERS FOUND OUT THEY WERE STILL TALKING TO US! MY HUSBAND LEFT THE CULT=THANK GOD!- YEARS AGO, BUT HAD STILL ENJOYED HIS PARENTS LOVE , UNTIL NOW! I AM SO ANGRY AND HURT, ESPECIALLY FOR MY HUSBAND! BUT IT IS THEIR LOSS! PLEASE KEEP SENDING WORDS OF COMFORT!!

  33. March 23rd, 2006 at 19:30 | #33

    I cant understand disfellowshipping principles ..if the person commited a serious sin like fornication on a one time basis and realized it was wrong and repented to GOD himself who are the elders to say if hes truly repentant or not and ecspecially if he isnt practicing this life style anymore or condoning it to others in the congregation ! its total crap and the fact is you people practice conditional love among yourselves and if someone leaves the congregation for one reason or another he gets cut off from his former”friends” ..you also pretend to like other people thats why you go out in service but its really so you can condemn them and reaffirm your brainwashing that your the chosen religion… the fact that u say your the only people god acknowledges is utter blasphemy !!!!

  34. Miranda Eyre
    March 21st, 2006 at 00:45 | #34

    I know how you feel, I tried very hard to stay within to keep in contact with my family but eventually they took it upon themselves to disfellowship me. Now my children do not have Grand Parents or Uncles or Aunts or cousins. Although my children now live a normal life and are not brain washed we have lost alot! But I encourage anyone to look further than what the witnesses tell you. It is so refreshing to hear others are in the same situation. Please do not think that if you leave the witnesses your life will be over it’s not true!!!! I promise. Despite my family situation I now have a loving husband and three gorgeous children and very supportive in-laws. Freedom from constant guilt and am living life to the full.
    One day I hope my family will see they are brain washedx

  35. STEVE
    March 17th, 2006 at 00:50 | #35

    JW fear the truth and do not pratice love. They are told what love is, and any body that tells them other wise is of Satan. The difference between real love and the love that the jw’s offer is the jw’s offer conditional love which is by meaning manipulation.

  36. Ed W.
    February 12th, 2006 at 03:12 | #36

    The best thing for disfellowshipped ones to do is to move on.To the JWs in secret reading this:

    If your faith is strong,and you have obvious truth why is the Society so afraid of apostate literature? Cannot the truth stand on it’s own and shine through?

    How can the Society claim to have the “truth” and then hide behind the “brighter light” scripture every time they have to make a change?

    Truth does not change.If the Society wishes to modify at will,fine..then they should call themselves a discussion group or theoretical inquiry association..but to call themselves “truth”–then prophesy the 1914 generation–then change it time and again..means they were spreading an untruth all that time..hence a falsehood..hence by definition they are false prophets.

    Those too new or too young to remember should spend time reading the Bound Volumes..the old ones…but I would bet if you spent too much time in the Cong Library leafing through them eventually you’d get taken aside and questioned.

  37. Sparky
    January 8th, 2006 at 20:45 | #37

    Dear Friends, After many years of loyally and wholeheartedly serving Jehovah, I have had my own personal crisis of conscience and now I find myself in search of Christian freedom. I love truth and justice, but justice tempered by mercy. Once the principle espoused was that it is better to err on the side of mercy than that of judgment. That approach reflecting the love and compassion of Christ is applied by individual Christians whom I personally know, young and old alike who will not be intimidated by threats and coercion. I always knew something was wrong but felt it was of local origin, merely imperfect men doing their best to direct other believers. I am both stunned and devastated as to the source and true nature of the problem. But the peace of God excelling all thought has reentered my life: I know for a fact that the holy spirit does direct individuals to do good. No earthly entity dare interfere with how He directs those who beseech Him. I just had to say this. I can no longer be silent. Sparky

  38. ber
    December 24th, 2005 at 13:52 | #38

    Gg kim, My opinion is totally the opposite. I could not leave the rest of my life looking over my shoulder always trying to figure out if something I did or some person I talked too (like a disfellowshipped person) something that would give them a reason to disfelowshipped me. So I wrote letters to the society and my kingdom hall and decided to disassociate my self, and I forbid them to disfellowship me or say bad things about me.

    Now I am free and can continue my life without looking over my shoulder afraid that they might find a reason to disfellowshipp me.

    For your information they can disfellowship without meeting you if they hear from someone that you done something that does not comply with you regulations. Your jw’s friends and family will distance from you if you don’t attend meetings for a long time, you have a surprise coming my fried.

  39. gg kim
    December 24th, 2005 at 06:54 | #39

    They tried to disfellowship me they stalked be showing up at my work numerous times and coming to my house every week for months, i tried to not meet with them because i knew that just the mere fact that i wasnt giong to the kingdom hall was reason enough reason for them to disfellowship me and they had heard from some so called friends that i was having doughts. i would not give them the pleasure to disfellowship me and i never will. My entire family is still in and if i were disfellowshipped they would have nothing to do with me. that what everyone needs to start doing dont let them disfellowship you if your thinking of leaving just leave quietly and if they stalk you like they did me just pretend your crazy and you are having a nervous breakdown or whatever it takes that is if you still want to talk to your family, and who knows if you can still talk to your family there is always hope for them too. Remember Jesus is right there with you and he said: Whoever gives up mother and brother for me will be blessed. love, gg

  40. sean
    December 12th, 2005 at 20:53 | #40

    truly it is spiritual warfare we know to put on the armour of God ephesians 6:10-20.

    pray and love those in the wts. that Father God will
    put hedges around their hearts and minds. keep the false teachings out , and let the truth of Jesus Christ
    in.
    ” I am the way the truth and the life no one comes to the Father but through me.”
    john 14:6,7
    “If you had known Me, you would have known My Father also; from now on you know Him, and have seen Him.”

  41. November 27th, 2005 at 20:32 | #41

    Yes, i can only Hope! that adults 2 can b waiting 2 get out! i Have several ‘pals’ that i pray nemerious times aday that they will get free frrom the ’slaughter house’ mentality.Plez all pray that they r freed soon with the ‘True Light’…i’m desperate! foxfire

  42. Anonymous
    November 23rd, 2005 at 20:30 | #42

    It is hard to read these comments by the Watchtower, after a few years of not having to read their propoganda. The one thing that stands out to me is the question “Why would a congregation of self-thinking, strong-minded individuals need ‘protection’ from someone who may or may not – as judged by the elders – men – be repentant of his sin?” Agreed, it is not the sin that the Society fears, but the un-controlled thinkers. Almost everyone I know that is still associated with the organization either has doubts that they are stifling, or is planning their exit strategy. I only wish my parents were among those.

  43. Tryingtothink
    November 18th, 2005 at 11:11 | #43

    I agree.

    The whole system is designed to control information. Oh they can spin it any way they want by sighting Bible scriptures about “removing” the “unrepentant one” etc. etc. However in reality and in practice, it is not exclusively used against ones who commit gross sin (murder, drunks, gluttons, fornicators etc.) rather it is often used (and more often these days) to control dissent, or those who have gotten too smart and perhaps will disclose information that would hurt the WBTS or wake up others in the Congrogation to the whole multi leveled Corporate Cult publishing and printing conglomerate.

    I have faith though. A whole generation of J.W. kids are just waiting to turn 18 so they can get OUT! The WBTS are going to lose thousands of “young ones” soon because they can see through the whole thing as a fraud. My two kids from a former marriage are just such ones and they tell me almost all the kids they know are going to do the same.

  44. stepheny
    October 13th, 2005 at 13:57 | #44

    the disfelowshipping is a very unethical method for destroying former members.why do you kill them so slowly.? execution should be faster

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